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# A Reminder
- URL: https://letters.michaelmaddaus.com/a-reminder/
- Published: 2025-11-14T21:43:58.000Z
- Updated: 2025-11-14T21:43:58.000Z
- Author: Michael Maddaus

I was so struck by the three ingredients for connection with another human being that I thought it might be valuable to reshare them as a reminder!

**C*onsistency***

***Positivity***

***Vulnerability.*** 

**Or, put more operationally: make time to be together, share enjoyment, and have honest emotional exchanges.**

Remember, you need to make it psychologically safe for the other person to want to be vulnerable. Avoid judging, advising, or one-upping. 

As I wrote yesterday: if you are feeling disconnected from someone, and want to improve the connection, make the time, find things to talk about or to do that you will enjoy together, and talk about shit that matters.